Lose that Negativity for Good

It's easy to get caught up in life's dramas. Learn to free yourself and live happy.

It’s easy to get caught up in life’s dramas. Learn to free yourself and live happy.

We all know people who thrive on negative vibes. Perhaps they are over anxious, depressed or simply unhappy with the path their life has taken. They are suffering, and by continuously obsessing over the negative, they are destroying their happiness and yours too. We all get down sometimes, maybe we’ve lost our jobs, or had a bout of bad luck, but when we continue on a negative pattern for a long time, we are only hurting ourselves. Mind, body, and spirit are affected, as well as that of those we live with and come into contact with on a daily basis.

Bad things happen. They do, and when they strike, often one after the other, we feel helpless. We fight back against this feeling by making negative thinking a default. It satisfies a deep rooted need for control over our lives and keeps us from being disappointed when disaster comes around. So we trade in all our happiness for the certain future of disappointment. This is a massive price to pay and a bad habit to nurture.

We’ve all experienced the toxic effects of negative thinking in our lives. Convinced we have nothing good to contribute to the world, we limit our interactions with others or promote negativity wherever we go. We look for the worst in others and situations rather than the best. Negative thinking becomes a compulsion. If negative thinking is causing you to suffer, consider taking these steps:

First of all, own your negativity. Avoid blaming circumstances or other people for how you feel. By blaming you surrender your power to change your thoughts and feelings. Understand that only you can decide how to react to your circumstances. Only you change your life.

Lose the all or nothing mindset. When things don’t go the way we plan, we fall into the all-or-nothing thinking trap. We immediately turn to the worst-case scenarios, which are often not reality.

Think Big. When we are obsessed with negative thoughts, we give ourselves the luxury of expecting nothing from the world. If we anticipate being let down, “screwed,” or left out, then we spare ourselves the discomfort of being let down or failing. Negative thoughts are toxic, and by feeding them, we create a safe space where we are protected from failure, judgment, and disillusionment.

Let Go. Learn to give people the benefit of the doubt. Resentment fuels toxic, painful feelings and can distress you. By forgiving before it happens, you open yourself up to a new feeling of freedom. This lets a little of the positive, happy thoughts back in, and allows you to function normally in society.

Practice Self-Acceptance. Often, our negative thinking is unrealistic. It can also lend itself to self-fulfilling prophecies of doom and gloom. Instead of focusing on the bad stuff, try loving who you are. Be strong enough to get past your own self-loathing and life will start to turn itself around.

Practice self-love and self-care. It makes YOU number one and happy.

In life, bad things happen, it’s all part of living. When these things happen, it hurts, but we are stronger. Know that we have what it takes to overcome the negative nellies and face the pain of failure, or disillusionment. Opportunity always comes knocking, sometimes, it just takes a little time. So be patient, be kind to yourself and let go of all that toxic sludge holding you back.

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  1. Great post ! It’s definitely not the easiest task to fight with your negativity but it’s definitely possible! I think letting go is the hardest for all of us! Like you say let’s think positive !! 🙂

  2. Great post, dealing with negativity is exhausting. It is so contagious! Things happen in life and at the end of the day, a lot of it is small first-world problems, but some people dwell on them… I find having a positive and happy perspective so much more rewarding!

  3. Thanks for this! I used to struggle with negativity and I’ve turned it around by focusing on things I’m grateful for and by being more aware of how I affect those around me.

  4. Great post! I especially love your section on self-acceptance. I think that until we are able to accept our mistakes or our negative thoughts, we will never get out of it! We need to be reflective and learn from these experiences, and accept ourselves for who we are as a person. When we can do that and love ourselves no matter what…anything is possible! Thanks for sharing!!

  5. Love this! Being a Buddhist, we’re constantly told to “let go” of negative feelings, because when we hold onto those, they only cause suffering to ourselves. If only more people knew how to let go of negative emotions, the world would be a better place!

    • I agree Tina. Negativity only breeds bad vibes. I feel like if you are positive then good things come your way. It’s Karma.

  6. It’s so hard to learn to let go but it’s so important to living a happy life and to move on past hard situations. Thank you for the good advice.

  7. I always struggle with letting go of things I cannot control. It’s easy to get wrapped up in the negativity.

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